March 20, 2020
We all want to help our child to be calm.
What are some ways you can help them?
Did you know, that all humans have "mirror neurons"? These neurons help us to mimic our caregiver. This is why your baby smiles when you smile at them! If you are upset or stressed, your child will feel the same and can start acting in different ways.
Currently, with the COVID-19 stress, along with other stress in life, we as parents can feel overwhelemed. Here are some tips to help you continue to nurture your child and yourself:
- Take time each day to breath deeply and slowly exhale. If you can exhale for more than 5 seconds it will help stimulate your brain to calm down.
- Call someone you love and check in with them. We text so much that we often forget the power of talking. While we cannot go out and see people take the time to call.
- Remind yourself of 3 positives from the day before sleep each night. Some days it may be hard to find positives. Look for simple things like a sunset or your child who had a cute smile.
- Make a list of the 3 most important things you want to accomplish that day. Work to finish one. If you need to rewrite some of the tasks the next day, that's ok!
- Have them feel their tummy as they take a deep breath.
- Tell them that you can see they feel ...(help label their emotions).
- Help them get some water to drink.
- Ask if a hug would help them to feel better.
- Be honest with your child. If you are not going to take them to the park, do not tell them you will. Children have a great memory for these things and what you promise matters.
- Tell your child something positive about them. If your child is upset and stops for a moment to take a deep breath, tell them "Taking a deep breath was a great idea to help your body".
- Give them 2-3 options. If you need your child to select a snack offer them an apple or a banana. Endless options are overwhelming.
For additional resources:
SAMHSA's Disaster Distress Line (24/7): Call 1-800-985-5990 or text TalkWithUs to 66746 to connect with a trained crisis counselor.
The Peer-Run Warm Line (24/7): Call 1-855-845-7415 for peer-run non-emergency emotional support.
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (24/7): Call 1-800-273-8255.
Raising a child will have moments that are stressful. Always take a moment to calm yourself down before you calm your child. For information on Nurturing Parenting or local resources for your family please visit this website: Lakecoe.org